In recent years, a noticeable shift has occurred in how people express their thoughts and feelings. Many are now more anxious about speaking out, fearing that their words could be seen as harmful. This trend has emerged as phrases like “words are violence” have gained traction in popular culture.
Dr. Chloe Carmichael, a clinical psychologist, has observed this change firsthand in her practice. She notes that more clients are coming to her not just with anxiety about public speaking but with a fear that voicing their opinions could hurt others or be interpreted as violence. While the intent behind this mindset is often rooted in compassion and a desire to protect feelings, Dr. Carmichael argues that equating speech with physical violence does not promote safety. Instead, it can lead to fragility and avoidance of important conversations.
Physical violence triggers a strong instinct in us to protect ourselves. In contrast, emotional discomfort from words should not be treated as an emergency. Dr. Carmichael emphasizes the importance of distinguishing between the two. For instance, if a client reveals a plan to harm someone physically, she is required by law to break confidentiality. However, if they plan to express an offensive opinion, she must keep that information private. This difference is crucial for mental health and clarity in communication.
Dr. Carmichael has noticed that this fear of expressing differing views has led many people to distance themselves from friends and family. They often feel unsafe around those with opposing opinions, not due to real threats, but because of what those views might represent. This hyper-vigilance can lead to increased anxiety and emotional turmoil.
Moreover, this trend connects to a larger societal issue. The U.S. Surgeon General recently declared loneliness a public health epidemic, highlighting that despite being more connected digitally, people feel increasingly isolated. When individuals feel they must censor their thoughts to fit in, they miss out on authentic connections.
Dr. Carmichael stresses that while words can indeed hurt, they also have the power to heal. Open dialogue is essential for personal and societal growth. Research shows that meaningful conversations can lead to positive change, even in challenging situations like de-radicalizing hate groups.
To foster healthier communication, Dr. Carmichael suggests that society should promote emotional skills. People should learn to tolerate discomfort, articulate their feelings, and engage in conversations without fear. These skills build resilience and help individuals connect more deeply with one another.
In her upcoming book, “Can I Say That? Why Free Speech Matters and How to Use It Fearlessly,” Dr. Carmichael explores these themes further, emphasizing the mental health benefits of open dialogue. She believes that when people stop fearing their own voices, they can communicate more effectively and build stronger relationships.
The conversation around words and violence is complex, but it is essential to remember that while words can cause pain, they can also foster understanding and connection. Balancing this perspective is crucial for both individual well-being and societal harmony.
